Nikki Giovanni
Open Relationship
An open relationship allows a couple to date outside of their marriage. A marriage is a commitment just like serious dating you are committed to your significant other. If you love somebody so much it hurts to see them with someone else. While dating a man for the first time the consensual activity can wait until you are committed to him. It becomes difficult when sex to a man means something to him and you are pressured to have sex in order to keep him. In marriage, the commitment is binding, because you do not want disease and once he has sex with someone else he can not be with you. You lose everything. If it were my choice, I would be with my one true love. I have fallen in love with more than one man more than one relationship. I was afraid to lose everything I had to be with him. They were not man enough to commit. It is hard falling in love when the men in your life kept a secret from me that they were married at the time we were together and they were not willing to leave their wife to be with me. I felt used because we had an open relationship. Being in love felt good to have someone who shows he cares for me and it is wrong to love someone who does not mean what he says. Try to pick yourself up and move on with the guilt that you did something wrong when it was not me and he but me, he and her always. He would never leave her for me. What attracts a married man to a single woman is her vulnerability to want to feel loved. I made a promise that if I fall in love again it would be different. My problem is being able to trust a stranger in my life and take the risk that the relationship falters again like in the past. I want to be loved by him and only him and not share. Does this make me selfish? I am tired of playing games that he plays me playing tricks with my mind by telling me the things I want to hear. I want an honest relationship with a male friend the one I can come to talk things out and be willing to share my time with. Some men are verbally or physically abusive when they do not get their way with women. The man I am promised to because he was my first was a commitment that I made with him that I would never be with another man except to love him. After years had passed, I kept my promise, but he did not and we forgot each other and moved on. I reflect on bad relationships with men who are afraid of being committed in a relationship because they do not want to get hurt by women who abuse men, take advantage of them and leave them. When you are ready to commit you have to take the risk from losing with all the drama it comes with. Love is binding. Love can make you happy and sad at one time. When you are in love with someone nothing else matters the pain regret hurt and guilt means nothing more than having accepted someone in your life that you love and care for and he feels the same way about you too. If you are married in an open relationship you are not really married you are living together. Open relationships are for those who are in the first state of dating searching to find someone they want to commit to.